Growing as a Person

Today, while sitting in an independent coffee shop in my neighborhood, reading 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (no joke--blog post to come), I realized that I was wearing the "hipster outfit" that I'd worn as a joke, for dress-up, about a year earlier.  Black jeans, black boots, black turtleneck, pin-straight hair.  It's funny how we change and evolve.

Outpost Cafe in Brooklyn. An excellent little place to read, and an excellent little place to be a hipster, or just be yourself.

Outpost Cafe in Brooklyn. An excellent little place to read, and an excellent little place to be a hipster, or just be yourself.

Earlier this month, I announced that for me, April was the new January.

Then, April turned out to be intensely challenging.  Nothing exceptionally bad happened... but I had to summon my strength and manage my mood in some pretty major ways.  

But a friend helped spin it in a positive way for me.  A friend--the same friend--totally caught me off guard over negronis on a casual Friday night out by mentioning that he was divorced. (I had no idea! I always thought he was an unattainable Manhattan bachelor.)  

Why did you get divorced? I asked.  

He said, among scores of other reasons, because they "stopped growing as people."

April was really hard for me, but it was also the most growth-filled month of my life.  I have never done so much growing as a person.  And that little nugget of knowledge--that we can take a challenging situation and reframe it in this positive way: This is so hard, but I can learn from this, can make something really dark into something really beautiful.

With that in mind, perhaps we can hope that the sheets of rain cascading over New York City will result in some really exceptional flower beds for the month of May.